So, I’ve been meaning to get this post up, because (1) we are overdue for a post and (2) Melody’s posts are always entertaining. You read her last one, right? Anyway, enjoy and as always, feel free to comment (Me LOVES comments!)
If anyone has worked retail they are familiar with the “No call, no show” rule. This rule basically says a “no call, no show” for work is ground for termination. The first time you do not show up for work, nor call you will receive a verbal warning. The second time you may receive at written warning (depending on how lenient the company is). But the third time you are definitely fired!
I like to apply this rule to dating. I have a very strict rule, if we plan our very first date and you do not show up and I do not receive a call or text there is no second chance. Does that seem harsh? Maybe, but you get one time to make a first impression and just like with an employer whom you are trying to impress you want to make a good impression.
Now, there are special circumstances: if there is a death in the family, if you wind up in a hospital bed, if you are in the CIA and have been called to duty. But any other excuse is just that, an excuse.
This past weekend I experienced the “no call, no show.” Seemed like a cool enough dude but hey ish happens in the dating world. But he is definitely terminated (insert Sweet Brown line). This is not the first time. The first time it happened the guy was really shocked when he asked if he could have a second chance and I gladly said:
“You know the saying: you get one chance to make a first impression. That was your chance, but good luck though.” (I can be a smart ass sometimes).
Good thing I stuck to my rule, the following week his girlfriend gladly let me know why he missed our date. Dodged a bullet!
This rule can also be applied to phone conversations. I don’t expect calls all day, every day but I do expect calls from someone who claims interest in me. Usually there is a progression; we may talk two or three times a week, several texts throughout that time, and an increase as time moves on and both parties are comfortable with each other. However, if calls were steady and drop off I get the hint. I respect the “curve.” (Side note: Respecting the “curve” will have its own blog post in the future).
Moral of the stories ladies and gents: If you want to show your interest in a person…show up!
Melody Gross is the CEO of Renaissance reBrand and an expert at navigating the dating waters as a single mom, entrepreneur and overall cool chick. Follow her antics on Twitter and IG at @MelodyGross