I’m not even going to apologize for my lack of posting…I’ve been so bad with updating (maybe that’s what happens when you are so focused on work, you forget to post about the fun stuff, lol. Don’t judge me!). Fortunately, Lilly Star, a dating and relationship blogger, is our guest blogger for the day. Thank goodness for Lilly, or else y’all would still be waiting on a post from me. Hope you enjoy. Lilly is going to give us a few tips on keeping and maintaining a healthy long-distance relationship (Lawd knows I need to take notes, generally speaking my “specialness” doesn’t translate well via text and chat :::sorry Babe, I’m trying to do better:::). As usual, comments are welcomed and appreciated!
Closing the Gap
Three Hints on How to Make Your Long Distance Relationship Work
Sometimes you fall in love with the exact right person at the exact wrong time. I have a friend who had been keeping himself out of the dating game for years. He’s an attractive, smart and funny guy but when it came time to make a decision on women he always opted to keep his distance. Then, as though struck by cupid’s arrow he meets a girl four days before she moves halfway across the country. Something about her intrigued him and now with almost no history they are trying to make a long distance relationship happen.
It’s not pragmatic, some might even call it foolish, but when it comes to matters of the heart, rational thinking has never been at the forefront.
What my friend is beginning to realize is that to make a long-distance relationship you need to combine a tension-free existence with total and complete devotion. These might seem like competing ideologies, but to make it work from a distance you need to combine the two for a mixture that will leave your partner swooning.
Treats, Treats, Treats
Groupon is saving relationships. You can gift your significant other a thoughtful present with the click of a button. Sign-up for their cities updates and when you see something they might enjoy on their own (massage) or something you can enjoy together (museum tickets) hit purchase and send it along. Imagine being in the middle of a normal day and getting an email that your loved one just bought you a 90-minute deep tissue massage? Glorious.
Think Before You Text
Jealousy is a pretty natural component of long distance relationship. We all know that the ideal is to never be jealous but when your partner is at Happy Hour grabbing drinks with attractive coworkers there is a little antenna within us all that pops up and tells us to protect our position. Don’t. When you feel like you HAVE to say something you often shouldn’t. Patience is the key, and you’ll soon figure out the more space you give your partner to enjoy their tie with new friends, the more they’ll seek out your counsel.
Leave ‘Em Floating
Great trip! One of the oldest and most dependable separation techniques used in relationships is to get upset with each other right before the scheduled departure. It’s completely counterintuitive but we protect ourselves from heartache by creating anger. That anger shields out hearts a bit and makes the moments leading up to and following the goodbyes hurt a little less. Of course, it’s also the first thing we regret once we get a good night’s sleep under our head. Even if your partner is picking a fight, stay strong and listen to what they’re really saying. They’re probably just anxious about another few weeks not seeing you.
About the Author: Lilly Star
The lead female voice at DatingWebsites.com, Lilly is a professional advice-giver with experiences in dating men of all types, including the good ones that got away. Her passions include white wine, purple peonies and relaxing on the chaise lounge with her dachshund Samantha. Lily’s work can be read on dating blogs for both men and women.