“If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay…”
— Oprah Winfrey
Ladies, I know you all have heard the above quote over and over again…but it is so true and right on point. Today’s lesson is “stop, look, listen and react accordingly.”
We are nurturers. We want to encourage and nurture relationships with the men we like, find attractive (physically, mentally and spiritually) and who we *think* could be good for us…and truly there’s nothing wrong with that; however, we sometimes make the mistake of projecting our own personal expectations on that of men who (for whatever reason) are not in the same space or on the same page with us.
Have you experienced that euphoria of just getting to know someone you really like…he seems to get you…you get him. There’s chemistry, mutual respect, lots of flirting. You want to dig deeper, spend more time together, see what happens…BANG…road block suddenly appears, and you are like…what the heck just happened.
In an effort to explore this phenomenon, I’ve done an informal poll (no it’s not scientific, but close enough for my purposes). I’ve discovered that when “he” senses that you like him, the man doesn’t think he needs to step up his game anymore…that he doesn’t even need to try. So, this is the point in the “getting to know you” period where the “I was just thinking about you” calls and texts stop…this is where the late night phone calls and flirting sessions end….and (drum roll please) where the push to spend quality time with you all but disappears. Ladies, if you find yourself being the one who is continually suggesting that you all hang out, that you all should talk or that you all need some quality time together…just STOP! Simply stop, look around and listen to the quote above in your mind “If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay…”
It’s a truly simple concept. If a man wants you (meaning wants to see you, talk to you, etc.) he will make it happen, regardless of how busy he is. So ladies, let’s just stop…get out of the driver’s seat and let the men pursue us. That way, we won’t need to second guess…AND most of all, we will get the attention we seek and crave.
I would love to hear your thoughts on this one. Fellas, you are welcome to reply.*photo courtesy of http://www.jessewilliamsonline.com/photos.php