I really amuse myself sometimes. I haven’t updated this blog in eons, and what is my first topic of conversation after millions of years (well, one year), you guessed it–SEX. I was thinking about the implications of pre-marital sex as well as sex outside the confines of a committed relationship, and I stumbled upon this article: Speaking Up About Sex. I must say, it gave one of the best definitions of sex that I have ever read:
“More than touching between two people, sex is a physical manifestation of an emotional event—entering into the inner recesses of another’s soul and accepting the enter-er into yours. In cases of abuse, sex feels violating for exactly this reason. It’s an emotional invasion expressed through physical contact.”
The author goes on to explain the reason why sex outside of marriage can be so damaging:
“Sex within marriage offers a mutual, respectful sharing that symbolizes love—an invitation and an acceptance to permanently participate in each other’s whole personhood. It plays a key role in God’s plan for married unity. Sex outside marriage results in eventual pain because that “invitation” will ultimately be returned to sender. The acceptance note receives a “decline” in response. A blended soul rips apart, back into two pieces.”
It’s definitely a strong argument against pre-marital relations for sure…but what about those who don’t believe in the sanctity of modern marriage (have you read about the divorce rate? Astounding)…Does this explanation of sex not extend to those in committed relationships? The black and white answer is no, not by Biblical definitions…the grayish answer–depends on what you believe.
I’m still forming my opinion. I know right from wrong, and all that jazz, but isn’t the road to enlightenment paved with questions and concerns regarding “group think” and “common thought?” Or maybe I’m just trying to find justification for doing something that feels good, but may not be good for me. Or maybe, I just wanted to talk about sex for my first blog entry in more than a year…yeah, that’s it.