So I’ve decided that instead of complaining about the dating scene for the professional, educated and dare I say “independent” black woman, I am going to do the unthinkable…I am going to embrace it. First of all, anyone with good common sense knows that that absolute worst thing for any woman to do is to go looking for a man. Trust and believe ladies, God will send your husband. Now, that doesn’t mean you have to wait around and be bored in the process. I’m a firm believer that you can still have fun in the interim of waiting for your soul mate (hopefully you haven’t met him yet and just didn’t recognize him for some reason, but I digress). Of course, the definition of fun varies from person to person (gal to gal in this case). For the record, I am not advocating “fun” as being synonymous with “relations”…no, no, unless you know for sure where the other person has been (and preferably wearing a gold band on the left finger), I would not suggest going out and getting your freak on in the name of pure unadulterated fun-get your minds out of the gutter people…let’s be retro for a moment and think 1950’s fun:-). But what I am saying is there is nothing wrong with “dating like a man.” Men don’t always necessarily think of every woman they go out with on a date as being their future wife. They allow themselves to get to know people without the pressures associated with desperately seeking out that life partner…ladies, it’s not that serious, plus, the desperate look is not in style last time I checked. Just chill out and have fun when you go out with a guy…stop fantasizing about what he is going to look like in his tux on your wedding date or how soon you are going to have kids and buy a house with a white picket fence together.
All in all…let nature take its course. before you know it, Prince Charming will sweep you off your feet when you least expect it. And then the daydreams will cease and the beautiful reality of a happily ever after will set in. Be patient…all in God’s time.